One would expect an Old Soul to have an easier time during an incarnation—after all they’ve been through the worst already? That’s not always the case, because on the physical realm, older people slow down and retire, whereas in the Spiritual Realm the Old Souls recently have had more work to do; train and mentor new Guides, and also to heal and Guide their own charges. It can make for a fraught incarnation, while some opt to wind down and pass on any guiding roles. Just because they can and have the capacity to do so doesn’t mean they have to guide, however, some reluctantly do so when they witness the suffering and pain of others.
This doesn’t mean all Guides and Lightworkers will have difficult incarnations, or that those with difficult incarnations are Guides or Lightworkers. Then you ask difficult in relation to what? One cannot judge against their peers as each Soul irrespective of physical age is at a different level. I define a difficult incarnation when the Soul lacks a certain amount of free will and choices on their desired path due to their Soul Purpose of assisting others. Some can see it as a compromised situation, and while many Lightworkers accept this as part of the job it doesn’t make the incarnation easier when they are bombarded with negativity, and their paths get stalled. These contribute to a difficult incarnation, which is separate from the Soul Blueprint plans where a Soul plans their path and possibilities.
Some Lightworkers find it too much and reject their role, or turn a blind eye to events and that is their free will. In fact I think it is healthy as the days of martyrdom are relegated to history books. There has to be some balance as sacrifice is not lightworking, and when a charge or situation affects the incarnation of the Lightworker then they should be free to regain control of their incarnation. Some Lightworkers are very determined and will sacrifice their own journey to aid others, but this may come at a heavy price. While admirable and it is indeed their agreed vocation, some Souls rely and expect too much from Lightworkers, thus negating the purpose of the assistance given.
Guides and Lightworkers also may experience difficult incarnations because they are given knowledge and foresight, and when the charge opts not to follow the advice given, it is hard to watch them fall. I know many will say that the Lightworker can opt to intervene, but overstepping the agreed spiritual boundaries results in conflicts for the Lightworker as it prevents the Soul of the charge from learning. At times, pain is necessary as a tool. In my own experience where I did intervene, my own path was stalled and obstacles arose as a sign to tell me to stop. By forcing me to use my energies to focus on my own path, it made me see that preventing my charge from falling didn’t help, as they had come to expect my help.
Others may say it’s cruel for a Lightworker to choose whom to help and when, but this is not governed solely by their will, but that of the Souls’ other Guides. It’s like a teacher giving their pupils the answers to an upcoming exam because they want them all to pass and not to fail. The pupils won’t learn as much, although the teacher wishes to help them progress and none of them to have to experience the pain of failure. A Lightworker must stick to their role and no more even if the intent is good. That makes it hard when a charge may turn on them, or painful in watching a charge suffer. I had to do this, but I had no choice and when the charge asked for an easy way out again, I said I could not help. I could have, but I had learned my lesson, and saw that the charge needed to learn to let go of their pride, which was holding them back.
An incarnation for a Guide or Lightworkers can be difficult and rewarding, and while they may have agreed to these tasks before incarnating, knowing doesn’t make it easier, but explains why their incarnations won’t always go to plan. Mature Souls who are learning to be Lightworkers may experience the most conflict, where an incarnation can be made up of demanding charges, karmic debt, and achieving their own goals. It’s no wonder some struggle and have difficult incarnations where there are multiple blocks on their own path. Plans can, do, and will change, and Old Souls are used to this, but prefer them to be less rocky, which is why many prefer to be hermits and keep their distance with charges, or are less emotionally attached.
As for me, I choose my charges with care, and let them go when I feel they have become dependent—not forever or to teach them a lesson (as some may think), but to help them to learn to use the skills and knowledge I have given them. That’s my job, to hold their hand, but then to let them learn to walk alone. I also know some may resent me for abandoning them (but won’t see it that way), but in fact I was allowing them to grow, and they can’t if they know they can come running back to me for help without trying first.
©2016. S.T. Alvyn.